Painful relationship break ups do happen to everyone. Suffering failures in you love relationships constantly can leave you shattered and nerve wrecked.
Most relationships have a predictable rhythm. The couple meets, there is love at first sight and they enter into a relationship. Every thing is hunky dory due to the freshness of the relationship. But as time passes the newness is lost and the couple becomes familiar to each other. They begin to fell irritated by each other’s idiosyncrasies. When they become unwilling to adjust and ignore each other’s faults all hell breaks loose. The couple decides to part.
If your partner has been physically violent or verbally abusive you had better let the relationship cool off; you surely are better off without such a person in your life. But if you feel that your ex is the true love of your life and that the split up was a mistake you should try saving the relationship even if your ex doesn’t feel the same. You could probably change his/her mind for their good.
Here are four ways of getting your ex back with you.
1. Apologize sincerely: Owning up your mistakes and saying sorry is a great way to bring your ex back to you. However, never say sorry for unnecessary things. Never consider yourself as the only offender. A successful relationship needs co-operation from both partners; so chances are that your ex has also erred in the relationship.
When you apologize be careful not to enter into an argument with your ex. You might try to defend yourself when he/she blames you and that might just mess up the situation more. Never let your ego and pride get the better of you- or you might end up losing your ex forever.
2. Discussing issues with your ex: You could request your ex to spend some time discussing about the problems in the relationship so that you could solve them. Don’t pressurize or desperately beg your ex to talk with you. During the discussion discuss the problems in an unbiased manner and use your tact to avoid fights. Keep blame out of the conversations. A counselor can greatly help you make such discussions a success.
3. Back off from your ex for a while: To get your ex back you must leave them alone for a while. Don’t communicate with them and avoid meeting them for a short time period. This will give you both time to cool down your charged emotions. Your ex will miss your presence and soon get back to you.
4. Get on with your life: Show them you are strong. Don’t spend time stalking your ex, or whining for them. Instead try to enjoy your life with friends. Don’t take your ex’s phone calls. Call them back after a couple of days and pretend that you were busy. Such behavior will obviously be a surprise for them. This may retrieve the lost attraction and she/he may pursue you yet again.
